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RIP Crazyhole

DrFumblerooski said:
I apologize in advance if this take falls under the "Sharing Way Too Much Info" category. But I decided if one person reads this -- and identifies with it -- it'll be worth the awkwardness I'm feeling in writing and posting this:

Crazy and I had a falling out about a year and a half ago. Before that, I considered him a very good friend (as board friends go). Four years ago he was in a bad place and I offered him my phone number if he needed someone to talk to. He took me up on my offer and I became a 'listening ear,' helping him through some tough spots he was going through. He told me at the time that he appreciated my support because he didn't want to 'unload' on any of his family members or long-time friends. Stop for a moment and let that statement soak in.

Damn it, there's just something about people (especially men) that causes way too many of us to feel too vulnerable and/or embarrassed to share our feelings with another person. But this is EXACTLY why we have trained counselors and mental health professionals in this country. It's frustrating because the stigma which still surrounds seeing a counselor and addressing unspoken issues is responsible for so much grief in this world.

The past few days I've come to realize why Crazy and I had our falling out. He was deliberately trying to push me away -- and sadly, it worked. I want to be clear here: I have not gotten confirmation regarding how he died Tuesday night -- but my gut is telling me that I know. As SUH pointed out above -- he posted this past Tuesday night (under his sockpuppet GOBIGRAD) -- yet, based on his obituary, we know he passed away shortly afterwards.

Frankly, how it happened is irrelevant at this point. He's left us. The point of this post is if anybody reading this is also struggling and has been reluctant to talk to anyone about what's been troubling you -- screw your macho man BS and do yourself a favor: seek out help. It's only a phone call away. 'nuff said.
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Not just a dude issue.

My sister in law is high profile judge and was a prosecutor before that. Dealing with scumbags on a regular basis takes a mental toll on you. On top of that she has had some health challenges. BUT - in government jobs especially law enforcement/justice related - getting mental health help is considered a black mark toward your career. So she has been VERY reluctant to get mental health - and it has hurt a lot of her relationships with other family members. Point being - yes people need to be OK seeking help - but we have MANY other stigmas on getting mental health services - including your employer - that need to be fixed.
 
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I'm in shock right now. Back in 2003 he set me up with his sister-in-law Nicole, and I got to know him pretty well. The sister-in-law dumped me quickly, as any decent woman would. But I felt like we became friends.

Aric had some pretty strong political beliefs, but he was always quick with a smile, and was a really generous person to his friends. He was a good guy, and he went way, way, way too young.

My heart goes out to his three daughters, his ex-wife Renee, and his charming mom Linda, whom I was fortunate to meet when spending time with Aric. I hope Aric has found peace.
 
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Also, for the old-school message board guys, who can take a joke. Is MO still alive? Because if MO outlived the young and vibrant Crazyhole, then there is some sort of dead pool that is paying out million-to-one odds right now.
 
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darthhusker said:
Also, for the old-school message board guys, who can take a joke. Is MO still alive? Because if MO outlived the young and vibrant Crazyhole, then there is some sort of dead pool that is paying out million-to-one odds right now.
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Ah, that's good stuff. I think MO popped in late winter maybe. I expect we'll hear from MO sometime tomorrow.
 
Man, very sorry to hear about Crazy. He's the second friend (and I considered him a good forum friend) to pass away this week. Both were great Husker fans. While I'm looking forward to tomorrow's game, it just won't be the same without Crazy's pre-game and post-game commentary. Sad. God bless his family.
 
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darthhusker said:
Also, for the old-school message board guys, who can take a joke. Is MO still alive? Because if MO outlived the young and vibrant Crazyhole, then there is some sort of dead pool that is paying out million-to-one odds right now.
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Mo is too ornery to die :p

And I echo all sentiments already posted regarding Crazyhole as I certainly can't say it better than has already been posted, very surprising to hear this :(
 
This just sucks. It makes me sad. Whomever can, please pass on mine and all of our condolences.
 
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